Wondering if I should be here

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Ouch - no. She apologized for crossing the line with OM - for sharing/saying the things she did. Didn't change the sitch though - maybe she was really trying to relieve her own guilt?

She apologised for crossing the line with OM but continues to do it? Eh?

If she keeps apologising then she is releiving her own guilt - she seems to wait until it builds up enough that she has to 'apologise' to relieve it - then the guilt tank empties and she starts again.

This is complete BS though. To be TRULY sorry for something you have done you need to recognise it's wrong and stop doing it. Anything else is cr*p.

I did what I thought was the 'bigger' person thing to do. To not be petty because I still cared (do care) for her greatly. In retrospect I think it was weak and clingy on my part.

I complete understand what you are saying. But you can't forgive somebody because it's the bigger thing to do. You can only forgive somebody if you forgive them, IYSWIM.

Forgiveness is done for us. Not for them. It gives us peace.

Ok. Maybe. I did this for me as a symbolic way of saying I am finally letting you go. These letters were essentially the roots of our realtionship. I met W when I was on leave from the military and we kept in touch through letters. (this was before the internet was well established) I was overseas and that was the only way we really had any contact, except a few phone calls. Anyway we both really shared a fondness for how we had devloped a great friendhsip through this. This connecton was one that was always important to both of us.

I understand why you did it. To me, it wouldn't have had that effect.

You don't need symbols to let somebody go. You do it through your actions, your attitude and the change in your relationship with them.