Right now it is somewhat difficult to set too many boundaries since she has most of the money from our joint account.
Since it is a "joint" account, then why not go get the amount you need to pay your bills, and open a separate account that she does not have access to. Why do you allow her to switch the money around and do all this stuff without your say-so? You can't continue to do like you did before. She'll wipe you out....if she hasn't already. Protect yourself and stop thinking of her as the little W who takes care of all the bills. Things are different now.
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She wants to meet this weekend and I'm not sure I'm ready
I agree, you are not ready. You are not in control and you need to get in control of this situation and right now! Stop letting her lead you around by the nose.
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he isn't goiong to say much of anything
Notice anything special in this sentence? "Much of anything" means he is coming loaded for bear.
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He told me that I am very persuasive.
Ahhhh.....this is it. He will be there so you won't pursuade her into doing something she (or maybe he) doesn't want. There is no telling what she's told her father to get him on her side of things.
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My question is if she isn't able to meet with me individually and she beleives that I might persuade her, then could this mean that she isn't 100% sure that she wants out of the marriage?
Oh no, not at all! She definitely wants out of the M! She just knows that she is too weak to face you without a family member there to be with her and give her courage to carry through with what she wants. Don't fool yourself into thinking she isn't sure of what she wants and that she just might change her mind. The sooner a LBH stops that kind of thinking, the better he can move forward and function with reality.
I don't know what's up about the money, but something is. Get control of it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
