Wondering if I should be here

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Now I will add that W has appologized a couple of times for what happened but she still continues the EA.

What did she apologise for?

If I am stabbing you with a knife while saying 'sorry' does that make you feel better? What's the point?

I have all ready granted forgiveness for what she has done

But she is STILL doing it! I can understand how you could accept the sitch and then forgive her for it but you don't sound like you have accepted it so how can you forgive her?

I realize the importance of being amicable and friendly but how do we seperate that from being friends - where do we draw those boundries?

Treat her like a stranger - be amicable and civil.

I gave her back all of the old letter and cards she gave me when we first started seeing each other 15 yrs ago. She seemed a liitle surprised and asked " You don't want them anymore?" I said no - didn't need them any longer and in a very (none emotional way)- said she could do what ever she wanted with them. She then acted a little aloof and said -ok. I mentioned that there was a letter I wrote 15 years ago that I never sent to her and she could have that too.

That just sounded a little childish if I'm honest. A little petty. She also knew she had gotten to you. Never let them see they are getting to you.

Much better to pack it all up into a box and put it away somewhere. Maybe in the future give her the box with everything in it and let her decide. But giving her the things she gave you from 15 years ago back just looks petty.

Remember those things are sentimental / important to YOU, not to her.

was funny and that when I finished watching it to text her - did not matter what time she would be up.
I am happy to say I didn't.

EXCELLENT!

Wow sorry for the lenghthy reply.

If you want to see LENGTHY replies, go to my thread!