Thank you S&S, PDT, P17 for your comments and I appreciate the $.02 as well as the 2x4. I have considered what was said and have come around to this understanding. I absolutely agree that a EA/PA is such an act of betrayal that no LBS should allow the act to go without consequences, let alone a free pass and cake-eating to boot. Regardless of what issues we were having at the time nothing would excuse or rationalize such a thing. I have always felt this way but also felt guilty for some of the things that I have done that led up to this that I allowed that guilt to cloud what should be easily recognized I thank all of you for your suport.
Now I will add that W has appologized a couple of times for what happened but she still continues the EA. I'm certian that if they were closer in proximity that it would have escelated to a PA by now. I have all ready granted forgiveness for what she has done and trying to decide how I should carry on from here. I realize the importance of being amicable and friendly but how do we seperate that from being friends - where do we draw those boundries?
Last night I had kids over for a short while W was taking some "me" time. It is really a mutually beneficial argangement. When she picked the kids up I gave her back all of the old letter and cards she gave me when we first started seeing each other 15 yrs ago. She seemed a liitle surprised and asked " You don't want them anymore?" I said no - didn't need them any longer and in a very (none emotional way)- said she could do what ever she wanted with them. She then acted a little aloof and said -ok. I mentioned that there was a letter I wrote 15 years ago that I never sent to her and she could have that too. As were were finishing up I mentioned I was going to be watching Hangover now that the kids were gone and she said that the movie was funny and that when I finished watching it to text her - did not matter what time she would be up. I am happy to say I didn't. Wow sorry for the lenghthy reply. Welcome any further comments and insights.
