Pls help--confused and fearful

[Day by Day]

Do you think this just because he knew you're schedule?

No, besides that. At my support group last night there was a suspicious man that looked just like OWxH. Scared me as he was watching me. I'm getting paranoid I guess. But I mentioned it to my girlfriend and she blocked him from talking to me. He was awkward and he then watched where I was going. I didn't go to my car alone. My friend thought it was weird.

Be very careful if you do think you are being watched. I would also pick the phone up and call the Police at the SLIGHTEST sign of anything out of the ordinary. You are a woman, on your own, with two kids. You need to be careful.

Yes, I will. Thanks P. WH is protecting OW from OWxH instead. Ugh, that hurts.

But he may not be looking to see if you are having an A with somebody. He may be looking for something as simple as you leaving the kids in the house by themselves, going out a lot, spending money, yada yada yada.

None of this may be accurate, but think outside the box. Have you mentioned this to your L? Have you thought a restraining order - don't know if it's an option or not, it's just to plant the seed.

I am starting to think outside the box! I do believe he is trying to paint me as a bad mother.

Why would S say he wasn't going to kick you out of the house? It seems an extreme jump from him just wanting to come in to S saying he wasn't going to kick you out.

S is extremely angry at WAH and is very defensive of his comments about me. That's as much as I can get from him.

Your H seems on a path to destroying you either emotionally, financially or otherwise.

What is going to happen to the current house?

I think it's both emotional and financial destruction. Not to be flip, but I don't care what happens to the house. I don't want it.

Try and think of these thoughts as good DBD. He is HELPING you to detach and making it easier for you. I know that might be a bit of a leap but every cloud has a silver lining ... so they say!

I guess. Just today while I was getting ready for my race, I was remembering always keeping him company to his and supporting him, yet I went alone today. I couldn't meet up with my girlfriends and it was a dark and drizzly day. I was thinking, why on earth would I want this man back. The betrayal is too much now. I've waited long enough. It compounds everyday. The disrespect and nastiness is compounding everyday. He kicks me around like as discarded piece of garbage. And I've been waiting here to forgive him out of love. I don't deserve this. I want a man that will honor his vows and is trustworthy and has integrity.

You're not ready to say goodbye DBD. You're hurting too much. You may want to say goodbye but your heart is still clinging. Mine is too. It's natural. We need to get the head and the heart singing the same tune before we can do that. Judging by the other thread today (as it benotafraid's one) it will take anywhere from 1 - 2 years for that to happen, although we're all different. I can't see me waiting a year!

Oh, I do see myself waiting a year. My heart has been too broken and I think it'll take a saint to get me to trust again.