H had Emotional Affair w/ Ex GF-Now I can't trust

[newmama]

I am worried that something caused him to do this in the first place-it could very well happen again when we become complacent.

You are so smart!!! Yes, something is wrong with WS meaning some need is not being met but it's not necessarily something the BS can do to meet it. We cannot expect our spouse to make us feel happy; we are supposed to make ourselves happy (in healthy ways!!!). Just stuff I've read about marriage since the A--but it is confusing at the same time.

And I have read that reconciliation can fall apart when the couple doesn't fix/work on issues before the A and if the WS doesn't figure out what caused them to have an A!