Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Sorry guys if I offended you! I was just thinking that dropping the rope is like being completely detached. The only way is to sever the relationship through a D!

Then, without meaning to offend, I said that filing for a D means "I give up" but I meant "I give up on sitting around waiting for you--I surrender! YOU WIN! You got your fantasy life with OP!" and I don't want to let WH win.

BUT filing for D as in "I give up!" means, too, that the BS is exhausted and wants to have closure and can file without regretting the decision to not be with someone who betrayed them.

Withdrawing the troops is a better analogy than surrendering. But tomato tomahto, surrendering means not fighting anymore.

So I promise to do a better job of editing before submitting next time!