Just caught up. I agree with everyone, and feel the same way as I did before when you first brought it up. Puppy's right. It looks as if you need to maker her seeee and verbalize everything the way you want her to. You can't control her that way...let her come to things on her own....by putting it out there asking if she ever thought about apologizng, she will definitely feel like YOU feel like she should. You need to trust that she can take care of herself. As for doing what's right....I really don't think apologizing to the wife of her lover is the right thing. The wife knows because you told her...do you really think she wants to know that your wife feels bad now? That won't make that wife feel any better...not at all. This isn't a question about you feeling like she isn't thinking about your feelings or that she is in a "fog"...this is about you thinking she should do something to feel better...Let HER decide if she needs to feel better. It hasn't sounded like she is feeling bad to me at all. You guys sound great...no need to fix something that isn't broken.
