DD, I wouldn't worry too much about "being in her face."

I mean, so what? Your w said things like "WE" need to decide together, "WE" need to talk, then decide together....or some such sh!t.

The thing is, she wants to "DECIDE" and then you have to be a doormat and go along with it. That is what she means by "WE."

How lame is that? I say stay where you are and if your w "DECIDES" to take it to DEFCON 1, that is "HER" decision.