I think what maybe you are not understanding is it is not as cut and dry as "asking and telling" because the divorce laws of this state are not conducive to "yes or no". It sucks but it is what we have to work with.
That is why I am saying if you do want to get divorced then file under "cruel and inhumane" treatment as it won't be "yes or no - did you do this" with the same level of burden adultery would be.
