Moving back in

[Steve McQueen]

In regards to treating it as if it bores me or not a concern, how about when I get served? and my actions in getting my L involved. I plan on not saying anything about L stuff (or R issues) to her, just shrug my shoulders,,Right now, no papers in hand, but I am planning on only responding to what the W initiates, let her drive this train.

a lawyer will tell you to wait until you are served papers then call me. enjoy life.

Your thread has gone from fun, frolic and kickin' a$$ to talking about lawyers blah

I taught you had a female co-worker that didnt mind playing the jealousy button, and gettin her pictures posted on the internet.
hows about the girl?

[DDogs]

Do you think the jealousy angle is good/helpful at this point? Besides other than the pics, w would never be in a position to see us together. Best I could do would be to let w see me getting dressed and going out.

Also, I haven't conclusively proved an OM. Possible not proven.

even if i want to reconcile Should I even care what she thinks?

[Steve McQueen]

Do you think the jealousy angle is good/helpful at this point?

why not she is using the f**k you over in court angle.

Besides other than the pics, w would never be in a position to see us together. Best I could do would be to let w see me getting dressed and going out.

NEVER NEVER EVER give away the fact you are seeing someone else. Hide the cell phone, pay your own bill for gods sake, take the pictures offline, have you ever noticed that churches are always in the center of town and as you drive out of town on the outskirts are the strip joints, XXX videos, and seedy bars?
Do it right or dont do it at all.

it works but you have to be strategic about it. and confident. Puppy's was one of the best examples I have read.

Also, I haven't conclusively proved an OM. Possible not proven.

see above

[luvless]

Where can I read Puppy's sitch?

[Steve McQueen]

i should be clear as to not cause any problems

puppy was NOT posting about hanging out in seedy bars and sneaky in back doors.

i should have kept him out of this, except for I loved reading about his conversation with his wife and the outcome.

[Greek]

Do you think the jealousy angle is good/helpful at this point? Besides other than the pics, w would never be in a position to see us together. Best I could do would be to let w see me getting dressed and going out.

Also, I haven't conclusively proved an OM. Possible not proven.

even if i want to reconcile Should I even care what she thinks?

DDogs ~
If my H would have dated or dangled another prospect in front of me while we were separated, I may not have returned to him. Just something for you to think about. We had a troubled M that we were BOTH responsible for. I told him I wanted more and better from him or I was leaving. Things didn't change - I left. If he would have then dangled dates in front of me, I would have folded up any hope of having more and better from him. I would probably have concluded that rather than improve our M as I asked, he'd elected to ditch it and start over somewhere else.

No secret here that I am not a fan of the jealousy angle to bring a WalkAway back. I don't think it is an approach that has any protein in it. If you get her/him back that way, you still have the same issues to deal with that you had before - and more hurt.

My .02
Greek

[DDogs]

My intentions were to only create some mystery and stir the jealousy monster. Let W see I'm moving on. I'd never flaunt a gf in her face. Just the thought that I was making my self desirable and going out and doing things

[Steve McQueen]

Just a Little of that Human Touch

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1841266&page=1

not comparing circumstances.

the strategy, the confidence, the atttitude.

[Greek]

My intentions were to only create some mystery and stir the jealousy monster. Let W see I'm moving on. I'd never flaunt a gf in her face. Just the thought that I was making my self desirable and going out and doing things

No issue with that. That's different than jealousy, though. That's being attractive in your own right - not b/c someone ELSE has your attention now. But I think you get that.
Greek

[Kimmie Lee]

DD, I wouldn't worry too much about "being in her face."

I mean, so what? Your w said things like "WE" need to decide together, "WE" need to talk, then decide together....or some such sh!t.

The thing is, she wants to "DECIDE" and then you have to be a doormat and go along with it. That is what she means by "WE."

How lame is that? I say stay where you are and if your w "DECIDES" to take it to DEFCON 1, that is "HER" decision.