What to do when H doesn't contact?

[dday101798]

KEEP AWAY.

If he can't be mature enough to deal you on a business like level for the sake of rearing a child the both of you brought into this world, he needs to suffer the consequence of his action then.

What I meant about the dererving, he doesn't deserve to have the right to push your buttons. He walked away from you, he walked away from his position to have imput on what you do and certainly and imput on how you should act. It is now your life, not the life you had with him. Live it.

How did I handle (x)W and no contact. At first, poorly. I did as you and buttons were pushed and arguements would ensue and then we wouldn't talk over and over again. When we weren't talking, which was often, when I'd pick up or drop off the kids, I wouldn't say word to her, period, unless called upon to do so by her. And when I did have to speak, I was short and to the point.

It would frustrate her to no end. And when she'd finally crack and ask "why are you treating me this way", the answer was consistant each and everytime, 'this is what you wanted'.

We had (have) a set visitation time table, so I never erally had a reason to contact her about anything. She did often go through our older son tho to negotiate changes, which would really piss me off as that is a no-no any way you look at it.

Once I finally started to practice what I now preach and didn't contact (x)W at all unless there was a school or health related emergency, things were a whole lot easier for me to let go and forgive and accept and just live this thing out to the best of ability and control what I can control and not let (x)W or her actions control me.

EDIT - rereading this, coin what I said in your head, "this is what you wanted", it's a powerful statement, it does not accuse, and it does not validate, it states simply, it is what it is.