I can't believe I wasted my time reading all this! I've had more than my fair share of dealing with hardhearted, stubborn, mule-headed and obstinate women who don't know WTF they want.
I'd rather get involved with someone's thread who knows what they want and help them get it.
Good luck KS.
EDIT: Kettricken, wasn't talking about your post.. .just the whole thread.