Your right. Snooping wont affect the impending divorce. Im doing it for me. D is set for 8Feb and S will be on 15Jan. She can still change her mind and get a separate lawyer and go for my throat if she wanted to so I am actually wanting her to get the divorce over with before she changes her mind.
While she is in her fog I am getting the better deal in the divorce. She could really screw me over if she wanted to so I have to tread lightly until 8Feb. Confrontations with her would not be good for me right now.
But before I go dark I want to let her know that I know about the EA at least.
The only reason I am still snooping is because I feel an overwhelming need to know if there is an affair and how far along it is.
I strongly feel that knowing this info will bring me quicker towards detachment. Especially if the EA has turned into a PA because that would be a deal breaker for me.
And like you said, I do not want her to see all my cards yet.
Last edited by g450; 01/08/1005:48 PM.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
