DD, I do know how your wife feels though. Even though mine are 19 and 13 all they do is argue and it is very stressful. They also listened to my H and I'm losing control of them every day more and more without him. I think the man in the family does have more control, I wish it wasn't like that but it is.
I wish I could get my H involved but he wants nothing to do with any problems. And offers no help what so ever. Mish is right as far as not being stressed all the time about the boys. Take it from me.
