Can any good come out of giving W some "space"

[Dom R]

lol, others have said the same thing. What do you mean by going down a slippery slope? Should I not talk to her friend anymore?

Depends on what your goals are.

I'd say you have basically already crossed one "line", by going out on a date with her.

Stop, dont deny it. Just face facts :-}

Then decide what you are going to do about it.

Some things to consider:

1. This "friend of your wifes" made the first move on you by calling you,and then effectively (yet "subtly") distancing herself from your wife, and also attempting to distance YOU from her also.

This probably means either she's after you for herself, or she's testing you for your wife's sake.

2. If you actually WANT to get back together with your wife, how do you think the best way to do it is?
Will it be to push her friend away and be "the noble guy", or will it be to make her jealous by dating her friend?
And if the latter... Do you really want to use her like that?

As a totally unsolicited comment here... I personally think that you should just move back into your home and hang in there and see what happens.
You previously wrote,

My W wants "space" so I gave it to her. Its been 2 weeks since I moved out. Many people have said to not move out, but its either try this or get a D (and move out anyway).

those are NOT your only two options. YOU are not forced to "get a divorce".
Your wife may choose to file. But it is in no way inevitable.
Furthermore, if it IS... then you moving out, isnt likely to help that any.

Final comment: in pretty much every single case, someone who "wants space", really "wants more freedom to continue an affair that they have started".

By moving out, you are effectively telling her, "if you want to go with this other person, go ahead! and you can even keep the house as a reward for your infidelity too, I dont mind. It's all about what YOU want, dear..."

Move back in, but just keep your mouth closed and stay out of her way. Make it an "in-home separation". If it's true that all she really wants is "space", then that should be good enough.



"But she's not having an affair. I'm completely positive".


Yeah, there really should be a stickied post that keeps track of all the people who said that, but found out the truth months, or YEARS later.