Trying to move on

[mishka422]

I really don't need someone to validate me as a person. That was the mistake I made with my M. I made my W my emotional center. Not only was that not good for me it was a heck of allot of pressure for her.

Exactly!!! I had never thought of myself as codependent until xh left and then I realized that I relied on him for my identity. I had defined myself as xh's wife, Marc's mom, part of the sisterhood of cop's wives, etc. I didn't view myself as......ME! I've learned a lot over the last two years that has made me a much better listener, friend, and potential mate. It has taken me a lot of time......alone......to figure it out.

CTH - do yourself and your kids a favor and don't date too soon. I know it's tempting, but it could lead you down the same road. You said you feel you are addicted to being in a R....break the addiction!