Yes, I have,,I understand the concept of mutually assured destruction,,, it's hard walking a fine line between standing up for yourself and having someone see that as a power struggle... I'm more than willing to have a mutually respectful, engaged M...I think anything I do (or W may do) can come across as an attack...
As distasteful as it may seem, the concept of "mutually-assured destruction" has kept the world relatively safe and peaceful for the past 70 years.
And as wonderful and blissful as it may seem, "unilateral disarmament" only leads to death and destruction, as others take advantage of your weakness.
There is nothing wrong with standing up for yourself, even if you know full-well it will be seen by your adversary as "escalation" or "one-upsman-ship." And, sadly, at this stage now that things have gone legal, DD and MrsDD are, in fact, adversaries. That's why they put that little "v" in-between the names of the two parties.
