Any tips to deal with Jealousy on my part

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Yes it is unusual. But to be on the phone for hours with "anybody" for my wife is normal. She has always been known for marathon phone conversations.

g450, I'm sorry to say this but YOU ARE MAKING EXCUSES. I haven't met a woman yet (and sorry if I'm generalising) that couldn't talk for hours. That's not the point. The point is she is talking on the phone for hours with a man (point 1), you don't know (point 2) and being emotionally 'available' with him (point 3). This is wrong wrong wrong. Stop making excuses for her.

This EA (and I would suggest that it what it is, or at least in the very early stages of becoming one) will grow and multiply unless you do something.

I want to confront her about it but if I do she will only push me further away. All confrontations with her that I initiated have so far only backfired on me.

What does that tell you?

There are two problems with me confronting her.

1)We are separating and then divorcing soon and she is already in the mindset that we are done. She doesnt see me as a husband any more.

Then you need to DB, GAL and do 180's to show her you are no longer that man.

Bear in mind you are both STILL married.

However if you are separating and then divorcing (and I assume that is what she is wanting) then that puts a whole new spin on things.

2)If I do confront her about it she will know I was listening in on her and she will get wise as to how I am doing this (wont go into details).

I understand. I thought you simply overheard her, Don't show all your cards at the one time.

I want to keep snooping for now to get something deeper before I blow my cover.

Will that effect the S and D though?