You escalated this situation by moving back in & getting back in her face.
She chose to escalate by filing for D. To give you an idea for a timeline if you are 2nd guessing whether she really did or not, ....Our D paperwork was filed December 21.. he still has not received it.
Seems like you are both into "one-ups manship".
Ever see the movie Wargames?
Yes, I have,,I understand the concept of mutually assured destruction,,, it's hard walking a fine line between standing up for yourself and having someone see that as a power struggle... I'm more than willing to have a mutually respectful, engaged M...I think anything I do (or W may do) can come across as an attack...
DD
H50 W44 M17 yrs S15 D11 D10 Bomb 4/09 Trial separation/moved out 9/09 Moved back in 12/29/09