Moving back in

[DDogs]

SDFound Girl, PDT, Soliel, Spinfree, Bridge,, thanks for the excellent responses and support, that lifted my day....

Script.

Your W's sudden filing smacks of retaliation. She had the power, and then when you moved back in, she lost it. She's trying to regain the upper hand. You now have the unique opportunity to treat her filing as if it bores you. Agree with her...fighting gives her the feeling of power and control again. She will experience another crisis when you don't react...and then she will have to really think about whether she wants this D or not.

Hang in there!

SD

I like that idea,,,a lot!

In regards to treating it as if it bores me or not a concern, how about when I get served? and my actions in getting my L involved. I plan on not saying anything about L stuff (or R issues) to her, just shrug my shoulders,,Right now, no papers in hand, but I am planning on only responding to what the W initiates, let her drive this train..

(It also seemed to me as retaliation for standing up for myself...)

DD,
How can you let the financial consequences of her actions fall on her shoulders?

Can you change 1/2 of the bills into her name? Wife, I have decided, since we are going ahead with an in-house separation, 1/2 of the bills will be in your name. Here they are. *show her bills mailed to house in her name* If you do not pay them, your credit will be trashed. They come with size 10 big girl panties....

If she doesn't pay them, let them get shut off. Pay the deposit or whatever it takes to get them in her name. Let the emotional creature *feel* the weight of responsibility.

SpinFree

W had the 2 major utilities in her name elec/gas (about $500/mon) W told me in MC that she cancelled them effective 1/15. Handed me the contact info and said I need to put them in my name since she is now paying her own car ins/phone, etc.. (I know, more retaliation) I don't know how I can force her to have these in her name,,,

The other option is to tell W that if she wants out of the M then she needs to leave the home... that will again seperate me from the kids because we have not been to court so no ruling from a judge... I just want to do what is right, NOT VINDICTIVE..!