I would present her, on your own (after an atty looks at it to advise you as to its legality), with an uncontested offer that includes EVERYTHING YOU WANT, or near-everything. A "sweetheart deal" for you and your daughter.
If she agrees to it -- great; you just saved five digits in atty's fees, that could be better spent on you and your daughter. If she doesn't, then you retain your lawyer and go the "contested" route.
I thought it was funny that this convo:
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Not more than an hour later, she called and after talking with my daughter asked to speak with me. She told me "you win". I asked her how I won anything. She replied, that she had spoken w/ our daughter and that she would agree to the visitation arrangements that I proposed. She was crying when she did so. She went on further to say that she didn't want to pay child support but that she would provide for our daughter? I asked her why she thought she didn't have to pay CS? She broke down this time and said that she couldn't afford to pay the amount that she was paying before as she would not be able to afford her bills if she paid that much.
WOW. I didn't know what to say. I told her I would speak with my lawyer concerning the matter. She said, you still intend to go through a lawyer? I said, of course, why? She said, if you go through a lawyer, then I will too. I replied, ok, that's your right. She then went on to indicate that if I pursued our divorce through a lawyer then she would seek custody of our daughter? We went round and round for a few and then she finally said she wouldn't seek custody but didn't want to get screwed in the divorce. Ok, I told her I'd be in touch and hung up.
was really, if you look at it, JUST like all of the "girl on FB" convos, only with the subjects changed. It's just all about CONTROL.
It's just all about CONTROL.
