Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

Well,

I took (x)W grocery shopping last night afterwork and then we stopped off for a casual drink and some chit-chat.

On OM, I reitterated what I said here, I have no way to know either way what the deal between her and OM is and that I'm not going to be physically sick over it. She says there is absolutley nothing to worry about in any aspect. He normally only contacts her about the house downstate and every so often gets drunk and stupid and 'pisses her off'. Again, all I could tell her is that I'd love to believe that, but she has to understand I have no substantial proof of anything, and I appreciate her being honest about everytime he does contact her, but my patience is wearing thin. Especially if OM lingering around is going to effect my health and the quality of ML to her, things are only going to get worse.

In an ironic twist, (x)W's conscience is eating her in the same regard. I was open with (x)W that I had dating interests, and as noted a few weeks ago, one of the main potential interests being one of my cousin's (former) neighbors. Well, last night I had to go over to a different neighbors house to look at their son's car he wrecked earlier in the day. Of course, this led to a few beers there as we all sat and chatted a bit and delaying dinner. By the time I made dinner for my cousin and I and finally got to relax, I ended up being by what I call "the chair of doom". Everytime I sit in the thing it puts me to sleep and. So, I didn't call (x)W to say good night as I was, well, passed out. (x)W sent a few messages during the course of the night and one after the other questioning what I was doing and finally led up to asking if I was with the aforementioned neighbor of 'interest'.

So, perhaps that also explains some of (x)W's temperment lately.

Speaking of temperment............

I called (x)W this morning to apologize for not calling last night and to make sure she was straight with her ride to work and she was. I also checked to see how the boys were as the were VERY unruly and disrespectful to each other and her last night when I helped carry her groceries in. It went so far as I noticed there were spots on S11's shirt I got him for x-mas and I asked what happened and he said it blood from S12 punching him in the face.

Anyway, the house was in disarray and (x)W had asked them to pick up while we were shopping. Of course, they didn't. So, (x)W tells them to turn the TV off and please clean. S11 crabs and moans (very rudely) and S12 continues to flip channels.

I let this ride out unitl (x)W got flustered and went into "drill seargent dad mode" and stepped up to the plate. S11 nearly crapped himself when he got a 2 second lecture from me about how to address his mother, and all it took was one snap for S12 to turn the darn TV off.

So I asked (x)W this morning if they remained civil for the remander of the night. Of course not, the moment I walked out the door they were right back at it. All I could say was, well, they're not that way with me. And then, (x)W EXPLODED. Ranting and caryying on that "I know they aren't that way with you, I don't know what to do, but I'm sick of hearing from people how they listen to you and not me". Heh, you know what they say about karma? So, that just goes to show what I've told her all along, eventually they are going start acting out on her as they come to grips with the who's who and the why things are the way they are from all this mess.