That my friend is the dilemma in it'self. There is no way for me to know 100% of the status. I live 13+ miles away from (x)W. OM lives all of 3 blocks. I'm certainly not going to make it the duty of my kids to report if he's around. Then again, half the time they don't even realize that I had stopped by late and stayed with (x)W for a while.
No, there is no way to know for certain unless the WAS is within eye and earshot of you every second of the day. Not realistic.
Okay, Dylan, here's my answer: Go with what you do know. You know your xW still has a business arrangement with the OM -- that has to stop, pronto! That's your starting point -- now take it from there. Look at the facts and address those.
