It is a tough place to be but I find myself getting stronger and stronger as the days go by. I am sorry to hear about your H's depression. Has he sought help for it? If he is taking AD meds the drinking isn't going to help. The sad thing is as much as we would like someone to do the right thing (get help, etc) we can only control ourselves.
My L informed my W's L that I am convinced of her having an A. My W's L maintained that my W still insists she is not. However, this is probably legal maneuvers since my W will not get alimony due to the A.
It is sad to see my W the way she is now, controlled by the effects of brain chemicals due to the A. Tearing a family apart due to the A and not putting effort into working on the R/M. It is her choice and she will have to deal with the consequences of her actions in the future.
I feel so much better in the current situation, yes it still sucks, but there are some positives. My W was eating cake and now due to the lawyers being involved I now have more input on what happens with my boys.
We should have a move out agreement done next week with the separation agreement right behind it. Still a scary place to be but it is much, much healthier.
Let me know how I can help Nikblondiew, even if it is just to listen. I know what you mean about the hard questions from children. I have been fortunate to this point as my boys seem to be happy and healthy. I am not looking forward to the discussion about W moving out and the impact on them. I know they don't see it coming and I wish I could take any hurt or pain away from them but I know I can't. I will be there for my boys and provide consistent love, guidance, and support.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
