SB's H doesn't *know* how to relate to SB in a healthy, adult, committed relationship. He will have to re-learn everything.

The cup is full of vinegar. He'll have to dump it out, wash it thoroughly, and fill it with good wine.

Sounds like a lot of work for both of you. You may or may not be willing.

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D 8
S 10
S 14

Married 18 years, together 20