I think you are articulating quite well what I am feeling. Not overtly obsessing over the A, makes me look more confident and less needy. In some ways it makes me a stronger person. Now, the other night, she was able to detect I had some anxiety. But I didn't cover it up. "Yep, thats what I'm thinking about, but its my problem to deal with." This is the theory anyway. Her response was interesting. Although edgy, there was a glimmer of humanity in it.
There may come a time when I want more information, but now I think it would get in the way of reconnecting.
Of course, I am always open to and welcome input and different opinions.
I might . . . MIGHT . . . be able to agree with this, IF you could tell me with reasonable certainty that this is how it was coming across to HER.
HOWEVER, if your past history with her was one of Mr. Nice Guydom, and especially if your post-bomb stance toward her was less than full-strength, I'm willing to bet the ranch that SHE sees it as "weakness and fear," and not "confident and less needy."
I personally would rather raise the "strength" bar real high, and then occasionally throw a "soft" bone. Now THAT, you get tons o' "points" for.
