Wondering if I should be here

[P17]

I completely agree with Puppy and S&S, the friends thing just doesn't work.

I tried it with my W and two things happened - 1) she kicked me in the the every opportunity she got (including not even telling me when OM moved in) so the 'friendship' was all one way (just the way WAS's like it) 2) it destroyed me slowly.

If you are friends with a WAS then it gives them a few benefits - they have two men / women chasing them and who love them (who wouldn't want that), let's them normalise, let's them convince themselves that you are okay with their betrayal and they get their cake and eat it.

If you are friends with a WAS it gives you false hope, torture, pain, depression, etc. etc.

Your job at this point is one thing and one thing only - save yourself. You CANNOT save your M if you are a broken man. Save yourself. Worry about W later on.

But saving yourself doesn't mean be a jerk - it means doing what is best for you. As Puppy said you can be civil, amicable, even upbeat and happy. You cannot be their friend. That doesn't work.

Just my 2p worth.