I think you are articulating quite well what I am feeling. Not overtly obsessing over the A, makes me look more confident and less needy. In some ways it makes me a stronger person. Now, the other night, she was able to detect I had some anxiety. But I didn't cover it up. "Yep, thats what I'm thinking about, but its my problem to deal with." This is the theory anyway. Her response was interesting. Although edgy, there was a glimmer of humanity in it.
There may come a time when I want more information, but now I think it would get in the way of reconnecting.
Of course, I am always open to and welcome input and different opinions.
