Seriously, you need to go see a lawyer and see what life would look like without him. Many lawyers will give you a free or really cheap consult without a retainer. DO IT.
H4U.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.