help her to understand what went down and why. And it might even help her to heal. And it might even motivate her to help with the kids
Antlers, I'm sorry but at this point, if Mr. Bridgestone were to give me a book section with the explicit written intentions of helping me heal from our abusive R, to understand him & what went down, & let me know he thinks it would be helpful for me in becoming more helpful with the kids so he is treated better.... it would be like putting gasoline on a fire.
I guess that's what has bothered me about this.. your perecieved intentions. I also get the impression this is really NOT what you want to convey to Mrs. Antlers.
I would want to hear.... Bridgestone, It has taken me a while to understand even a tiny bit of the personal hell I have put you and our kids through with my selfish, immature,controlling, and abusive actions over the years. With the help of this book I have had a glimpse into the inner mind & feelings of an abused spouse. I am so regretful for my actions of treating the most precious people in the world to me as I did.
Because of things I have read in here & recognizing myself & you amongst the pages, I am learning to act in ways true to my core values of compassion, kindness, (&whatever else there is for you antlers) instead of reacting on the fear, anger, resentment that I did for years in our R. When I did that, you lived in fear of me.. that is a horrible way to live. I hope you can forgive me for that, but I can understand why you can't forget it, I know I can't.
You deserve nothing but the best in your life. I'm sorry I failed to be that for you during our R. I hope you can see that my core values of compassion & love for you are "letting you go" to live your life according to your core values, instead of in fear of mine.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.
