Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Sandi,

I agree, I do not want to meet my W with her father there. She wants him there for moral support. Since she left she has always had one of her family members with her when her and I have met. She brought her sister with her the night she left me. It's sad really that my W needs her family for such support. Ny W is acting very immature. She said she put the money in another accont to be used for our joints bills. This is ridiculous. I told her that I won't meet until she puts the money back into our account. She said she will talk to me about that when we meet. So right now we are at a standstill. She wants to meet this weekend and I'm not sure I'm ready. I feel I should stand my ground and not meet until she puts the money back but I'm not sure she will do that. Maybe best to meet and at least hear what she has to say and make no committments? I called her father yesterday and told him that I don't think it's a good idea for him to be at the meeting and this is between my W and I. He said my W wants him only for moral support and he isn't goiong to say much of anything, just sit there...not sure about that one. He told me that I am very persuasive. I think he means that my W is afraid that I might start to talk about R and she might be convinced to work on marraige? Don't know for sure. When my W told me she wanted a divorce a couple of months ago, she did tell me that I have talked her into things in the past and she didn't want me to talk her into staying in the marriage. My question is if she isn't able to meet with me individually and she beleives that I might persuade her, then could this mean that she isn't 100% sure that she wants out of the marriage?

Her father told me yesterday that if I have any shot to get her back that I would need to show her a track record for a while and that it couldn't be done in a few weeks. I told him I know this and that's what I'm in the process of doing. This is all so confusing. I think about how I should handle this with my W everyday. We did talk a couple times on the phone yesterday. The first conversation we talked about the meeting and money situation. She did not want to talk about it on the phone and said she would talk about it at the meeting. Two things I took from that conversation. My wife seemed angry with me even though she has told me in the past she isn't. Second, she has a huge wall up against me as her defense mechanism. She kept talking and interuptin me and finishing my sentences. She would think I was going to say something bad. I kept telling her to take a breath an d calm down. I said I didn't have anything bad to say and that I just wanted to talk about the meeting. There were times during the conversation she was very nice (like my old W) and times when she was someone else. Very strange. I told her I would call her later about possibly meeting last night. When I called her later I told her that I wanted to keep my IC appt. last night and we would need to meet another time. She was very nice and understood and we agreed she would get back to me with some other dates to meet. It was short and sweet but very nice. Then I bumped into her last night at the gas station and said hello. Again, she was very nice and we talked for a couple of minutes about the weather. It was difficult to see her last night even for the few minutes and then have to part ways. This sucks. The hardest part for me is being patient.