Oh, I agree with you from that perspective Trent. All of us have personal decisions to make at many different points, and forgiveness can probably be one of the most problematic among them. The adage that it's for one's own good comes across hollow for some.

I would say that for some folks ... perhaps GIMA, Serenity among them e.g., really they might do better "embracing the suck" and accept it's no point chasing the cheeseless tunnel of wanting to be with someone who does not want to be with them, or even worse, verge on abusing them.

Cheers.

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.