I will order the book this week. I need to do some work on dealing with the A but he still is nowhere near wanting to even discuss anything. Maybe he never will. I am amazed at how overwhelmed I am with having him back home--I feel like I have no time for me at all. Hope it is just the holidays and returning to work more hours post holiday. I really am afraid of scaring him away with any relationship talk. But it has only been 2+ weeks and he is moving all his/our furniture back from the apartment next Friday so that is a very good sign that he is not keeping a little love nest of furniture until lease runs out in March. I need to be patient but I just wish I had a few months under my belt to feel less insecure. When do you begin to feel more normal and less like you are on eggshells? Ever?