feel like giving up - talk to me!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

yes, enjoy your dinner! fake it till you make it...just replace any negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

I do want you to remove yourself a little, but I'm going to respond to your last post from me.

ST - my H has been a jerk - it's hard to be nice to a jerk. I have listened and expressed to him that I am here and I want to understand what he's going through. I've been supportive. I have...but he has been cold and distant towards me leaving me to believe he is in an EA with ow or even more.

yes, I know he has been a jerk, but remember, he has done good things here and there. everything he is doing is by the book. this is how it goes, I'm sorry this is just how it goes. But this is where you have the reigns. YOU are here, and you can make a choice to save it or forget it. which do you want?

He told me his LL is personal touch but we aren't close. He is distant right now so that is just hard to do. I tend to believe he is manipulating me with the back and forth stuff. I mean his being nice...then not...it's just as confusing for me!

okay, this helps...during the times he WAS being good (like the wine, or like the dinner, or when he complimented you, or when he opened up, etc.) did you reciprocate with personal touch? or at least within the same day?

in regards to manipulating you with back and forth, like G said, your doing the same thing. and he's going to go back and forth...that is how they ALL act. you have to expect this type of behavior in this part of the sitch.

this is why you must be consistent, just like G said. the more consistent you are, the faster you can get thru this.