Have you ever watched the movie Madagascar with your kids?
"Smile and wave fellas...smile and wave."
Don't pay attention to anything your W says at this point. She's simply justifying D to herself. Simply obtain the services of an attorney and proceed forward. You have your answer...your wife wants out...so let her out. Going forward, everything you say to your W must be said in terms of "what's best for the children." Never get angry or lose your cool. The light is at the end of the tunnel my friend.
-LFH
Thanks buddy. I will keep walking and I'll get there. The children are my highest priority at this point.