This is a recurring theme in most people's sitch's, including my own.
I have found the best way to deal with it is to accept that we will never know why. Just accept that.
When we are asking 'why' we are placing our thoughts on someone else, we are not living in our 'present', when we should have our thoughts on us right now.
When your asking why about someone, accept you may not ever know why, and return your focus to you, your GAL activities and your daughter.
I have become much more peaceful when I do this, just letting go of the 'why' and accepting the way things just 'are' right now.
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
