This AM, I was wondering if her physical openness was due to the effects of the alcohol or the effects of a fun night with no R pressure at all. I am leaning towards the latter right now!
I would think it was some of both. But look at it like this, if there had been a R talk then I doubt the drinking would have caused her to open up in a good way.
Just don't try to read too much into these times. Yes, it pays off not to pressure her, but just mark it down as a good night b/c you played it like you needed to. Now, when she wakes up, she may be completely withdrawn the next day b/c she may be worried that you took her acting all cozy like as a green light, so don't be surprised if she is in a mood. WAW's do that. They come in close, then back off b/c they are confused or they don't want the H to get the wrong idea and she has to convince him that she still isn't ready to reconcile.
So enjoy those times when you can get them, but then ready for her to retreat the next day.....or maybe even sooner.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
