I just found out about your situation. Hang in there man! I am really surprised that your W had the courage to file for divorce. I figured that you would be the one to lead out of limboland...but it doesn't really matter who files first.
As I reflect about my situation as well as every other situation I've read on this forum, it becomes very clear to me that we really never had a chance in saving our marriages. DBing was only about saving ourselves! GIMA, you did save yourself. You're a better person today than you were 10 months ago. I predict that we will both approach our wives one day and thank them for dropping the bomb on us b/c we deserved it at the time. They woke us up! I'm not saying that our wives were blameless in the marriage, but we are now keenly aware of where WE went wrong.
We will not repeat our mistakes in our next relationships. I pray that one day I may be fortunate enough to meet the next Mrs Right. I hope the same for you my friend. In the meantime, focus on self-care and your beautiful children. You will always be their father, whether you're divorced or not.
Best Regards, LFH
ME: 38 W: 35 D2.5 and S5 Married 12 years Separated (same house, different rooms) INILWYAM by W: 4/16/2009 The day W requested a D: 4/17/2009
