My wife just insists she wants a divorce asap. She says we need a fresh start and maybe something will happen in the future but she is dead set about being in this marriage. Its hard. I feel like my wife feels like she missed out on a lot...she is just starting to take college classes and wants to live on her own and support herself...why she would want to struggle instead of being in a marriage that I am committed to making great is beyond me.
Because someone else has come into the picture. A new male interest. Some guy at school. Exotic, different, new, a challenge for her? They have common interests. There is a little sexual tension. It is exciting to her.
HE IS NOT pouring his heart out over and over and telling her how much he loves her, how she is most beautiful thing in the world to you, how he would do anything for her...
BUT SHE WANTS HIM TO and she is most likely pursuing him because he shows an interest in her. A distant interest. Somewhat reluctant because she is married (hence her desire for a quick divorce) but still he is DIFFERENT and INTERESTING and NEW and most likely CONFIDENT ABOUT HIMSELF and she is infatulated.
She told you straight out what is going on "Says we got married too young, there were a ton of things she didn't do." Dont go by that saying dont believe anything they say. What she said is true. It is her reality. She is interested in the DIFFERENT, the INTERESTING, the NEW.
This is why it is important for you to get out and get busy and meet new people. Dont just work on trying not to contact her. Dont think about her. Let her think about you and why you no longer call. Then she will. You understand what it feels like to be rejected? well...
What did I tell you above?
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Develop a new attitude about life. One that is more confident and successful at being alone. Isnt this what 22 year old girls are attracted to? The 22 year old girls I know arent attract to mopey, sulking, depressed guys. They are into dancing and having fun and experiencing life to its fullest. They are looking for that confident, decisive, emotionally strong guy to sweep them off their feet. Be that guy.
