PMA, PMA, PMA! If I find this challenging, may have to start ADs
For people who suffer with long term depression, meds are the way we have to go. I tried everything for depression, but I finally accepted that it was a clinical thing in my brain that I could not control.
I have been holding off b/c I have always felt it would be best to get through this without "chemical assistance". Problem is, I am still mightily depressed over all of this and I wear that sad look on my face. If I can see it, she certainly can too. Going to talk to doc about it and see if there are good AD options for me.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
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3. Start going to MC, let her know that she is welcome to come and let her know each time I go. Continue with my therapy for depression.
I got to tell ya, speaking as a former WAW....that doesn't work too well for her. It is pressure on her and she will resist you saying anything...even the fact that "you" are attending MC, so I personally think it is a bad idea to mention to her that you're going, much less invite her. It is the same principle as leaving marriage help books laying around for her to read.
I see your point about it being similar to laying M books around the house. I have to admit that I got psyched about Retrovaille this week and have really had the urge to send her the info but have held off. I also thought about writing her a letter to let her know where I stand in terms of wanting to work on things but held off on that too.
I guess my main urge is based on wanting her to know that there resources and options out there to help her figure herself out but I guess that is the "fixer" coming out in me.
One thing that I really want her to know more than anything else is that if she were to decide to work on things 100%, while we would have some tough issues to work through, she would never have to endure judgement from me or anyone else. I want her to feel like it is safe for her to try. Any suggestions on how to let her know this. I don't want to put any pressure on her, just want her to realize that I won't pounce on her the minute she tries to reach out.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
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7. Reconnect with family and old friends
Make this part of your GAL. Don't do it on the computer or phone alone, but get out of the house (while W is home) and go meet thses folks.
Flying home to see friends and family tomorrow
Originally Posted By: sandi2
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11. I will set a daily goal to demonstrate to myself that I am high value
Oh, I like this one!
Trying this one but still feel like she traded me in like "cash for clunkers" on a nice new model! It will take time...
