I am reading your thread for the first time and we are kinda going thru the same thing right now. I am doing NC with my H too and it is so hard. Like you said "poof" and they are gone. My H also left. I assume he is staying with the OW. He didn't say and I didn't ask. So much good advise here. It took me awhile to figure that out! Hang in there~
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing