His wife filed for D after a long stretch of limbo. There are a bunch of us in this limbo state, wanting for it to end one way or another. If W files they do the work for us, just like if they move out of the house on their own, etc.
Got a knife in the heart from W this morning. Just after I described my ritual with the offering candles in my post I actually paid a visit to the church yesterday.
W noticed that the candle was gone and asked me this morning where it was yesterday.
I didn't see any reason to not directly answer her question, so I told her what I had been doing with the candles and how I had visited the church where we were married on a couple of occasions.
She sarcastically told me "you can burn all the candles you want but it isn't going to help you - it is like some sort of shrine over here and I should take all this crap down (our wedding pictures, etc)"
Ouch.
Oh well - I told her that it was my way of dealing with things, just like seeing my IC.
Just my opinion, but you should have kept that ritual to yourself. After all, its not for her, its between you and God. And it probably made you seem desperate in her eyes.
I'm sure you thought she might be touched by hearing about it, but I don't think wives in this state are affected by anything sentimental. I learned that pretty quick.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
