Also, everything I am sharing is what happens once the divorce or separation reaches the family court level.
I assume you have not actually filed anything yet as your W would only have twenty days to retain counsel and accept your grounds and settlement or counter.
In our state you cannot file a divorce decree without having a settlement offer (that is not to say she will take it but it has to be made available to her). Also, if you do file for divorce her attny has the right to request a signed affidavit from you (your attny will prepare this) that explains in full and great detail the grounds in which you are filing under.
If she does not request this DON'T OFFER. You are legally required to comply should the request be made however if the request is NOT made you are under no legal obligation to provide said affidavit. My H's attny ignored our request for this affidavit which actually worked in my favor as it was very easy to tell the judge during the initial RJI Hearing we had no clue why we were there as no info had been provided after the formal request was made.
