What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[HHIF]

I just went back and read your thread and I am going to move back into the MB,I have only been on the couch for about a week.

I went to the couch because she said she was going to turn my office into her bedroom and I said that I didn't want that because it would be disruptive and she said she thought that would be less disruptive than her moving out.

I know I am being the nice guy and trying to keep the peace but a couple of things that are different than your sitch is my wife isn't angry and fighting and no evidence or real suspition of OM.

Allot of what I read about her losing respect and attraction to me rang true,I guess I do need to start being less helpful and start to rock the boat a little.

I just know that my behavior in the past of being jealous,controlling and insecure had allot to do with us being where we are now but she is the one talking about ending
a 26 year marriage,I want to work through things and have a better marriage after making it through all of this.