Hi Cutterbug thanks again. You know your sitch really has seemed to follow a similar trajectory to mine.
Well let me try to respond to some of these great questions. Well I moved out for two reaosn 1) The tension was really getting to be too much. 2)I felt that this was a 180 for me - trying to show that I was listening and putting her wants and needs above my own. Could be a really wuss move in retrospect but I was definetly in a different spot at the time. The kids of course miss dad and want me to be around.
Thank you for your words of support and understanding - I really have beat myself up over some the things I've done.
Yes - the EA really shocked me into action. The depression really centered more around my job/carreer and dealing with the death of a family member and then ta really close friend. I did become withdrawn and alot and learned later that depression can manifest itslef as anger in men. I've been dealing with through some medication/excerices and therapy.
No, I don't accept the FOG/BS crap- I only acknowledge those feelings.
I can see you and puupy's point of view on the whole friendship thing - but sometimes feel that if I choose to be less than that then am I not just repeating the same beahavior that led to somne of this? I could use some solid advise on this point. I agree about the respect and trust point and will weigh that heavily agains what I have been doing.
