I think too that for some people there simply isn't ever enough. I've thought that about my H. He says that he had NO complaints about me. That I'm a great wife. But he had an affair anyway and got addicted to the high.
This was one of the "infidelity myths" that was shattered by Harley in his research, when he found that a good chunk (I think it might have been 20-25%?) of cases of affairs were by HAPPILY MARRIED spouses. No marital dysfunction; no significant prior marital complaints.
It's always good to do a real gut-check, obviously, but sometimes it's just plain ol' LUST that happens. (Not saying it did in mine; I definitely contributed to some of the marital dysfunction).
