Obviously you will not engage in pursuing behavior but I think that there is a lot of scope for positive action without being pursuing. What I meant to convey is that you should not project a cold or uptight attitude if you happened to be projecting such but instead seek to be upbeat, positive, looking good, smelling great. Not FOR HIM, as we all know that you will do these things anyhow but I thought that you could capitalize on the moment by doing these things in his presence.
I agree to a point. I am "on game" more when in the presence of MsR2C. The things that work are always counter-intuitive. It is important to project something other that what they expect. That is seductive because they think they know you, and then you surprise them by being different. That alone will make them question if they are doing the right thing.
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The fact is that someone has to strike up a conversation at some point and if you are the one who wants to save the M perhaps there is a way that you can do that without pursuing and without losing ground. I don't think it is the end of the world if you ask how are you doing and the other person responds in one word or not at all. IMHO you lose no ground and you let it go. If you repeatedly do it and hang around like a lap dog then you will look pathetic. But that is IMHO.
I agree with this also. After every interaction, ask yourself "Did that bring us closer, or push us farther apart". Every step you take toward a WAS will push them farther away. Every step that you take away from WAS gives them space to evaluate if they are making the right choice"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
