D- I hope you are doing OK and its not arthritis. I guess if it is, there are lots of therapies/strategies medicine-wise to help..but certainly no fun to have painful hands!
I hope you have a wonderful New Year's-any special plans?
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
My worry is that there is a strong possibility it is rheumatoid. I worry about the joint damage associated. And the thing is it's not just my hands. It's constant there but I also have pain in all my other joints from time to time to the point that I have difficulty sleeping.
Staying home for New Year's but the kids will be here so we'll celebrate together.
My worry is that there is a strong possibility it is rheumatoid. I worry about the joint damage associated. And the thing is it's not just my hands. It's constant there but I also have pain in all my other joints from time to time to the point that I have difficulty sleeping.
And all you were worried about was going blind......
Let me know what's up with the arthritis when you find out. I hope its only good news! It can be scary to be facing something like rheumatoid arthritis, but there are a lot of new treatments out there..so maybe I can research stuff for you, if needed. Let me know if/how I can help.
Sending positive thoughts your way!
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
Thanks for thoughts and prayers. I really do appreciate them. I get the results from my blood test tomorrow so we'll see what happens.
Had some things happen with my wife today. For the past 6 months I've been trying to teach my MIL DB techniques so that when she talks to her daughter she can validate her feelings. (MIL is THE source for my wife's childhood issues. My wife feels she was emotionally abandoned by her mother growing up.)
MIL blew that all to hell today. My wife's birthday is 2 days after Christmas. Growing up and even times when her and I were together, her Mom forgot her birthday. This year my MIL didn't forget it but my wife feels as if she was passed over again so she decided to tell her Mom how she felt. Instead of validating, MIL got angry with my wife and told her she needed help blah blah blah.
My wife called me to talk about it all. I listened, validated, and supported. I told my wife that it wasn't her fault for the way she was feeling and that I was proud of her for telling her Mom how she felt.
The 2nd thing that happened was that my wife has to go to court on Friday for a legal issue (nothing to do with divorce). She kind of hinted that she wanted me to be there so I asked if she wanted me to be there. She said yes.
I take the positive that my wife reaches out for my friendship. I have finally learned how to be a friend to my wife without putting pressure on her.
Great job D! You seem to really be able to DB consistently and it seems to be paying off! Good luck with the test results tomorrow-let me know what you find out. You are in my thoughts!
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
