loving distance

[courageous wife]

I am bothered by H not calling the kids today. He has to know that we have another snow day. I suppose that is typical behaviour?

RW-if you haven't read my original thread, then you don't know that this is the 2nd time that H has had an A. The first time was Feb 01. It didn't last very long. H moved out for about a month AFTER he ended it with her. He asked me if he could come home and told me how sorry and stupid he was and the only boundary I set at that time was to make him promise that he wouldn't do that to me again. You can see how that worked out for me! At that time I did blame myself because I had not been supportive at all. H came home and said "I quit my job!" Didn't talk it over with me...I knew he was unhappy there but thought he'd look for a different one first! He took another one that had him being called in at all hours! I never knew when he'd be home...we couldn't plan anything and I was a B about it!!

Anyway, this time around, should he decide to work on our R, I am "armed" with a lot of good information and will stand my ground on the boundaries I set.

I really want to have that conversation with him but suppose it is best to wait for H to contact me or visit? Stay in the dark, right?